|Tali- South Indian marriage Identity|
I have always believed in dressing up for myself and for the occasion. Not that I do not respect other's opinion, but simply because I know what to wear and when to wear. An addition to my cosmetics and jewellery after marriage is the Mangalsutra, Dejhor and sindoor. I do love to wear all these when going for a traditional function. Since I am in Stockholm and there is a drought of traditional functions here, I wear them when I feel like. But if someone forces me to wear it or attach some religious beliefs to it, then I will surely not do it. I wear these things because I like them. If sometimes and somedays I don't like them, then I am just fine without them. It is just like any other lipstick or watch that I wear.
|Kashmiri marriage Identity|
By now I am sure you know where this is leading to. You do a search on any state and culture in India, a woman is supposed to sport some kind of a sign that she is married. And in every case these symbols are linked to the longevity of husbands. Your husband will live longer if you wear sindoor everyday, or your husband will love you more if sindoor gets sprinkled over your nose. My mother's anxiety would know no bounds if sometimes my sister forgot her Tali in the bathroom. I often used to make fun of her, so why are you not hanging your husband to your neck today :P :P. What I am trying to say is you take any of these items each one of them is for the woman, to show that she is married. It is like the family now owns a pet dog or a cat and has a master's tag around its neck. And the second notion is of husband's long life. Wonder why we have widows around if this was true.
|I wish :) :)|
So what, the world need not know that a man is married, why is he left free, and not under some vigilance? and the wife does not need long life is it? So why do men not wear that sindoor so that their wives can live longer ? or is it that they want them to die soon so as to get married again :P :P :P. Come on, I mean who said all these signs and symbols are necessary for a happy and prosperous marriage. I am sure any man or woman who is in love, wishes and prays for the well being of their spouses. Tradition and culture is fun and women should have the freedom of choice. When Rekha says in her movie, "Iss sindoor mein bahut shakti hai" don't take it literally. What is being meant is marriage as an institution is very powerful. The only power a sindoor has is to get you called Aunty :D :D.
I am a believer and believe in God. So according to my beliefs when God made Adam and Eve He did not ask Adam to apply sindoor on Eve's forehead !!!
Currently my hubby is just thanking his stars. He is glad I found these pix on Google, if not I would have asked him to model :) :) :) :)
|A wish come true, with Rohit Bal's collection :) :) :)|