You are at the peak of your marriageable age (as decided by your parents & relatives). You have completed your education. You parents think you are earning well enough to support a family. Your friends have started sending you their marriage invitation cards. Your ‘single’ relationship status on facebook is now bothering you a little too much. If you have these symptoms then yes you are in the marriage market. No, you have guessed it wrong….I am not talking about women. All the above descriptions and symptoms are those of a – MAN!!! So if you fit the above criteria then you are available in --- The Marriage Mart.
Well, now nobody wants to be rejected. The fact that you are put in the Marriage Mart means that your parents have dressed you up very well. All chunnus and munnus have been wiped and polished. Your item description must be flawless, and highlight would be your salary. If you have a car & a house that would be mentioned in the bonus box. If you are a NRI that would be announced as a bumper prize J J J J, but still chances are that you could be rejected.
Here are the top 5 reasons which have been cited by ‘SuKupedia’(my own good self) based on real life examples of friends and cousins. From the reasons have been derived 5 Sutras or Panchsutra (as SuKupedia calls them) to save you from rejections J J
1. 1. Profile Picture
One of my room-mates had received a couple of pictures from her parents. She was supposed to choose her future husband from them. There were 3 pictures, while the other two were rejected because of looks; the third reason was what I found interesting. The guy in the picture looked good and mind you he was staying in London J J. In the picture that was sent the guy was wearing shorts. He had probably clicked that picture when he was on a casual outing with his friends. Maybe he looked cool (or atleast he thought so), but it was a big NO for this room-mate of mine. This is what she actually said, “How can you send a picture in shorts for a marriage proposal? Should he not have sent a decent picture?” So she rejected him because he did not have a presentation sense J J.
Sutra: If you have a pair of cool shorts, keep it for your honeymoon!!!
2. 2. Fly and Win
“So are you going to wear a salwar kameez?” I asked my friend, when she told me that she was supposed to meet a marriage prospect that evening. “Ofcourse not, I will be wearing what I am most comfortable in, my favorite jeans and top”. The next day morning when I met her, I was very eager to know if she had liked the guy. Then she showed me a SMS which she had sent to the guy, letting him know of her refusal. I was not shocked, but was curious to know why. She looked at me and said, “Can you believe, he had come to see me from Bangalore and he came by train” (the guy had come from Bangalore to Chennai). Until then I had thought train was the best way to travel. “Couldn’t he have flown, after all he works for such a big company and earns so well. This means he is stingy”.
3. Naukri ya Chokri
My mother’s excitement is always at its highest, when she has to attend any family functions, one because she gets a chance to know all the latest gossips and second she can showcase all her latest saree collection. When I returned from college that evening, I was hoping to find her packing her stuff to leave for an engagement ceremony of my cousin sister in Kerala. But when I came home she looked a bit grim. Upon enquiring I found out the engagement was cancelled. Before she told me the reason, I got to hear a piece of lecture about how modernization is spoiling girls all around J J. Alright mom what is it, why is the engagement not taking place. It seems the to-be bridegroom was supposed to move from Chennai to Trivandrum. Since my cousin had a well paid job in Trivandrum she did not want to take the risk with her career, and so had asked the guy to look for a job in Trivandrum. The guy had agreed initially, but as the engagement date neared he was not showing any signs of looking for a job in Trivandrum. Hence she decided not to go ahead with the proposal.
Sutra: Be ready to be dumped if you are not a job hopper !!!
4. 4. I am a Maggi Boy
I am sure you guessed it from the title J J See you guys are getting smarter :P :P. “Aare he can only make maggi it seems” said my irritated friend raising her eyebrow in a typical Tam-Bram style (don't ask me how it is). “I have no time to coach him after marriage. Since both of us would be working, I would be expecting him to help me around. We cannot eat maggi everyday no”. “And you know another thing, the way he said it, sounded like he had won some medal, he was proud of the fact that he could not cook!!”. Obviously some mama’s boy forgot to take cooking lessons. Sadly for the guy he got rejected and a chance of getting a super new Swift and tons of gold.
Sutra: Stay in the kitchen for a while before you come to the display shelf!!
5. 5. Hawt Koffee
This particular friend of mine did really not want to get married and wanted to concentrate on her career. So everytime her parents fixed up a meeting with a prospect, she decided on a weekend date for deliberately planned reasons; free food and a nice weekend. But this time she was serious and by now she had been to all the expensive coffee shops in Chennai. This time around she chose the café at Le-Meriden (see arranged marriages have their benefits). When she was leaving I had asked her to pack me some muffins from there (friends have benefits too). When she came back and gave me the muffins I was very pleased. But the expression on her face was not so good. She said she was going to reject the proposal (which was obvious) because she had to share the coffee bill. “How can a guy ask a girl to pay the coffee bill ya” “And you have to give Rs.235 for those muffins, I had to pay for them!!” Nahiiiiiiiiiiiiiiiiiiiiiiiiiiiiiiiiiiii (that is my voice in distress)
Sutra: Dutching in is not a mantra for all the girls!!!
All the above are real life examples :D :D. Yes yes yes I am always surrounded by very intelligent and genius people, that is because 'Birds of same feather flock together' :D :D. I know what you are thinking, what weird reasons for marriage proposal rejections... I thought like that too :P :P :P..but there is no harm in sharing knowledge no O_O