I was travelling in an auto rickshaw in Pune. This happened some 4 years ago. The auto was nearing a signal and had to slow down. There came a bike zooming from no-where and brushed past the auto before screeching to a halt at the signal. But while finding his way next to auto the rider had said something very abusive to the auto driver. Friends & family who know me will not be surprised at what happened after that. I waved my hands to the rider of the bike
Me: Sir I need some details can you please help me
Rider: Yes, I will move to the left come there (since we were admist traffic at the signal)
Me: Sir, just now when you passed this auto you called the driver 'Madharchod'
Rider: What details do you want?
Me: Meaning of that word...I did not understand...
Auto Driver: Let it go didi, its ok maybe he was angry
Me: Nahi sir, please wait.
Rider: Aarey I did not have any place to move my bike.
Me: But it was not his mistake. You are the one who came speeding and since you are not telling me the meaning of the word I assume its a bad word.
Rider: Go, get lost and do your work don't try to be Sati Savitri (till then I thought Sati Savitri was a freedom fighter)
Me: I will not. You will fall at this man's feet and apologise. ( this driver was past his 40s and so was my dad)
Rider: Aarey if not what will you do??
Me: I will call that Traffic Police and tell him that you are misbehaving with me.
Rider: You will say and he will believe, is it??
Me: YES, you wanna check ?
He probably by now realised that I could very well do what I said
Rider to the driver: Sorry
Driver to me: Chalo didi, now its ok
Me to Rider: On his feet
He finally fell at the driver's feet and said sorry.
As for me, I left that auto, stood there doing some time pass and then took another auto and went home. What do you think ofcourse I was scared, that this guy would come back.
Why did I bring it up?? You see what I had done.. I had misused the power that law had given to protect harassed and abused women. Frankly, I did not realise it then that I had taken advantage of being a woman. I had the victorious feeling. Last year a close friend had disclosed that he had lost his previous job because some female employee who after failing to convince him that she loved him, lodged a complaint with the company HR, about my friend harassing her. Without any further investigation he was asked to leave. This was probably then for the first time I had realised that what I did was not right. I could have fought well without threatning that guy the way I did. On the reality show 'Bigg Boss 5' too we could witness women shouting all the while 'Ek aurat se aise baat karte hai'....and this despite the fact that some female contestants would shower abuses on male contestants. The most misused law is the Anti-Dowry law. Any woman can just walk in and file a complaint against her in-laws and husband. This is ridiculous, especially when I personally know couple of friends still fighting their cases.
So this is what I don't understand. Why do women need special treatment? If it is a mark of respect for being a daughter, mom, wife etc., etc., then even men adorn different roles. I agree that women were harassed, tortured and imposed with unnecessary laws by the male dominated society and it still goes on, but there are sections of society which is free from all this and yet women misuse the law or the gentle treatment phenomenon. Why do such women think that they can get all their work done with just one look or some sweet talk from some guy?? Use them for bike rides, shopping, taking loans and then keep saying that they are strong... Shouldn't complaints against men be thoroughly examined and questioned?? Is respect only for women and men can be just used as and when they like ? Are such women making lives difficult for the really troubled ones too?? Above all why do we have gender biased laws????