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This is my 100th post and for the last couple of days I have been thinking of writing on something really special. So went from topic to topic and then finally decided let me not dedicate this post to anyone but myself, I am worth it after all, ain't I?? :D :D
I have come a long way from writing essays & debates in school to writing articles on public forums. I think I have improved through the journey, not as much as I wanted to, but yes have learnt to express myself a little more better. This is not only because of some maturity, but also because of some of my favorite bloggers whom I read regularly, they inspire me to write better each time and not to mention the readers who read my posts & leave comments they are like super energy boosters :) :)
There is one point however I really need to understand and that is how to deal with negative criticism. No, I don't think I should call it negative criticism, not that I don't like negative comments on my posts, ofcourse what kind of a writer would not like a honest review, I have received them many times. What I mean is people who leave really offensive and destructive comments. Initially I used to feel really bad, that someone doesn't like my article or the way I have written it, but then I realised that it is not necessary that everyone in this world should agree with me. And ofcourse my readers are intelligent beings with their own experiences and opinions. I then started taking these not in favour comments as sincere opinions and connect them with my article, as a genuine discussion. That really worked very well, liked the fact that I was getting into meaningful & mature discussions.
But recently there were different kinds of comments which I really didn't know how to handle. I did reply to them, but honestly I was not satisfied with the replies I gave them. I think they should have been more mature, but cannot determine how? Recently an article of mine was published in TOI, this is not the first time an article was in TOI, infact this is my 3rd one, but I got a very good response to this particular one. One reader commented that 'the article was foolish & rubbish and I was highly uneducated so called writer'. My immediate feeling was to give him a right tight slap, seriously! but then you cannot always guide your actions by your feelings right? Another one had mentioned that it was a waste of time to read that article, funny part is that reader then took out the time to write a comment :D :D
I did reply to those comments in the most possible decent manner, the fact that the editor allowed those comments to be published means it was not vulgar or indecent. But is that it? should I have just ignored those comments. Should I have just kept silent, and let them say what they thought? But wouldn't it mean that I am weak and I cannot retaliate? My MIL doesn't agree with that, she says it just says that you are too classy to fall down to their kind of language. But easier said than done right?. Long time back I had tweeted that 'none of the positive messages work when we are actually facing that situation'. Having said that my MIL handles the grievances and complaints department, and yet she is so happy with her job. Maybe she has practiced in her life what she preaches me today. But will I ever reach that level of patience?
I am just a small little ant trying to crawl its way on public platforms with her writings and these kind of condescending language does make me feel nervous. Learning to handle them in a calm way or totally ignoring them is going to be really challenging considering my nature to confront anything & everything. Twitter has been really a learning experience in this matter. I see so many journalists & writers being thrashed down by words of readers who don't agree with them, but I seldom see them replying back. But is that because they are already celebrities and these kind of comments don't really bother them. Is it affecting me more because I have just started? Also brings my mind to another question, whom am I writing for, myself or others?? But if I am writing for myself then I should just maintain a personal diary right, why share it on a public platform? Anything you put up publicly is bound to have public reactions right?
What a coincidence! I just logged into my fb account and saw this on my TL " Once they stop talking to you, they start talking about you. Whatever they say defines them not you!!".... Guess I should just put it to rest now :) :)