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Friday, August 9, 2013

Say 'ThankYou' before it's too late!!



Today's Guest on SuKupedia is Dr. Roshan Radhakrishnan.  Did you feel intimidated by that name? don't be.  If I really wanted to introduce him, I would just write that one line and continue with his post.  Believe me whatever good words I am going to write about him now, is piercing through my heart.  Frankly I am just jealous of him.  Why?? well you have to go to this link and see the list of books that has published his stories. His blog Godyears is among the ones I wait to be updated.  When I asked him if he would do a guest post for my blog, all that I had in my mind was to 'reject' his post :D :D... oh what happiness it would have given me.  But then he pleaded and pleaded and pleaded some more that I should not reject, hence dear readers here is one of my favourite writers and a very good blogger friend Dr. Roshan for you.... 



Say 'Thank You' before it's too late!!



For me and my college friends, the last month was a hard one. We lost one of the most beloved sirs of our student life. He passed away suddenly without any warning to a massive heart attack. Sir was one of the good guys - barely a decade older than us, he was the first to befriend us when we made the life-altering shift from a basic 12th standard classroom with uniformed students into a dissection hall filled with actual human dead bodies. While other staff chose the heavy handed approach of 'Survive or get lost', sir was one of those who chose kindness. He used to stay in the hostel next to ours so we all got to bond with him. He was creative, supportive and fun-loving. 

While you could hear an ant sneeze in other more rigid staff's lectures, in his class, we would all be in little corners gossiping while he tried to engage us in serious discussions on the subject. When we went for field trips with him and other staff, surveying villages and giving lectures on hygiene to the public in languages we barely comprehended ourselves, he would always be there to encourage us. Many a return trip from the village would invariably end up with a pit stop at Coffee Day (a big thing back then) where we could all relax before going back to college for the next class. Everyone would have their own fond anecdotes of sir - but trust me, you wouldn't find a single story about him getting mad.

Even later, when we all finished our course and left, sir still managed to find a way to keep in touch. Via facebook, he would continue sharing funny jokes and useful information to us regularly and without fail... right up to the hours before his heart betrayed him. He had just reached the pinnacle of his career and was headed for even greater things when it all ended abruptly. And that scared a lot of us.

In Munnabhai M.B.B.S. Boman Irani's character talks of how he could do surgeries on strangers with ease... but if it were somebody he cared about, his hand would start to shiver. The same applies here too with us, I guess. Though we see death regularly, this one really got to us all because this was a guy we all cared about and liked. 

When you hear people talk of spending more time with people who matter to you, a cynical smile may appear on your face for the obvious preaching nature of the advice. But it's a lesson that you need to relearn over and over again - because once the people who matter move out of your life, you may not always have a chance to say 'Thank you' to them for all that they meant to you. It may not be a grand gesture or even something unusual - but it may have been some act of kindness that they did for you at a time when you needed it. That - an act of kindness - is an increasingly rare commodity in today's world, if you look around you.

We are all connected to each other across different parts of the world via our social networks. What we tend to forget is it's not a contest to see who has the most Facebook friends or Twitter fans. It's about how many of those people you can rely on to be there for you when you really are in a crisis. How many form your core trusted circle? 

It would not take more than a few seconds to type a random Whatsapp/Facebook message. But it would bring a smile to their faces to know they are still in your thoughts.

-- Dr. Roshan Radhakrishnan.



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30 comments:

  1. I agree completely, you never know when a simple "Thank You" can make someone happy. So, Thank You Dr. Roshan for such a lovely post and Suku, thanks for being such a lovely person yaar. :')

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  2. Great guest post... Sorry for the loss of an old teacher. I do have teachers like this.

    I try to send a text message to the important people in my life daily. It might not be much just a good day or an enjoy your day but I know only too well how little of a guarantee we all have on life.

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    1. thank you Shanique :) .. and that sending message is such a good effort :)

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    2. I really need to do that myself - message the people who matter the most to me. I've been guilty many a time of letting relations fade away

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  3. Saying thank you is one thing... expressing it yet another... I guess, we all realize the value of people around us mostly when they are gone!

    We need to show that the people around us are valued when they are around... well written post!

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    1. so true Danny... mostly we realise the value of a relationship when we are devoid of it.. hence the importance of nurturing that relationship in this post :).. glad you liked the post :)

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    2. Sadly Danny, that is the truth isnt it? It just doesnt register till its too late.

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  4. It is an absolutely wonderful lesson that cannot be reiterated often enough. Thankfully with or despite our favorite social media platforms, I have always made an effort to stay in touch with those close to me. Regret later on is just so futile.

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    1. right Rachana.. regret later really doesn't matter...but I think it is such regrets that would make one understand and probably help take care of other relations...

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    2. Some relations have gotten closer thanks to the social media.. conversely, some have just fallen apart. Dont know what that says about me or them

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  5. Yes.. It's sad we forget to say Thankyou often.. I understand how difficult it must have been for you and your college friends after the loss of your teacher.. You have indeed been lucky to have a teacher like that.. Emotional post.. Keep writing..!

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    1. glad you liked it Priya :) sure Dr. Roshan appreciates it too :)

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    2. We were lucky to have him at a very difficult time. Nothing could prepare us for the first year of MBBS and having a smiling face of authority was a boon.

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  6. Nice post, well expressed... Some people in life are like this, have a huge impact but move away very early :( It's really nice to have such people, especially teachers in life :)

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    1. true Karanth... but it is really sad when we have these people and we don't spare time to think about them...

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    2. We often underestimate the value of our teachers, dont we? A good one can make our lives heaven

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  7. Rosh.. we wouldn't have heard Arjun singing.. if a teacher like him was not there

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    1. aaahhh that sounds like a good memory.... we should ask the doctor to blog about it :) :)

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    2. True.. that was an example of sir encouraging talent other than reading textbooks.

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  8. I agree. We should all appreciate those that touch our lives in a favorable way saying thank you often. Lovely post and tribute to your teacher who obviously touched your life greatly.

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    1. Thanks Kathy. He was a really good human being. Thats why it hurts more.

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  9. Appreciating other's good deeds and openly acknowledging it is some thing that we all lack. A special effort should always be made to let others know that we appreciate.

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    1. yes public encouragement and applause we seldom do...

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    2. True. Public acknowledgment of the role others have had in our lives comes very rarely unless its a celebrity. This is perhaps a small token of me doing so for someone who deserved more.

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  10. There is so much to thank for that even if done more than once, it would not be enough for all the goodness around!

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