Yesterday felt really wierd. After posting each day for the last month on this blog, yesterday all that I was doing was sleep, sleep and sleep :D. Last month was the Ultimate Blog Challenge, where you guys read a post everyday written by me. I thought of giving you guys a break, and let you enjoy some other wonderful writings. Yes, SuKupedia is hosting it's first GUEST POST series :)
Today's guest is someone whom I must confess that I was very apprehensive, whether she would accept to do a Guest Post on my blog or not. I have been following her blog for sometime now. She also has her story printed in the Kaleidoscope, a book which is a collection of 25 stories from different writers. Remember that picture of a fairy reading out stories to children, Nabanita Dhar of Random Thoughts reminds me of that fairy. I have always loved her story writing skill. But don't be under the impression that Naba only writes stories. You can see what I mean, when you read her post. Without any delay, I present to you what Naba things is the worth of a woman??
Woman - what is her worth??
During a conversation with an acquaintance a few months back, I realized again, how awfully narrow minded our society’s perception of the fairer sex really is. Abysmal and depressing to say the least! Everything related to the female gender is scoffed at by this perennially pathetic society of ours. It makes me sad and angry at the same time. I don’t know about you but, I certainly feel India is among those countries where women are viewed only through the tainted glasses of prejudice. We, as a society are extremely regressive when it comes to women which, believe me is not a pleasant thing to know especially when you yourself are a woman.
So coming back to the conversation, it was with a woman about four years my senior. She is very much a woman of today. Well atleast I thought so up until that conversation with her. I was left aghast when she pointed out to me that having my husband help me in the household chores, however small, would earn me a place in hell. Yes, you read that right! Hell! According to her, starting from washing his coffee mug to ironing his clothes, all were my duties! And to add on to that if I didn’t do it or if he had to run those errands by himself, it would make me a despicable wife worthy of being ostracized. Well, confused or tongue tied are you? So was I!
Honestly I didn’t really know what to say. A part of me wanted to fight back but then I realized that it is not really her fault. That’s what she must have been taught all through her life. She was just saying what had been hardcoded in her mind by her parents or family perhaps. I could have deliberated with her but my past experiences have taught me that there’s just no way to breach the hardened shells of women like her. Infact of anybody with such stiffened orthodox views irrespective of gender! But that’s not even the question here. The question is why this society in the form of parents or relatives inculcates such thoughts in a woman. Why? And why do women play along?
I don’t know perhaps it has got to do with the sort of family one hails from. Perhaps it has got to do with education. Or, it might even have something to do with financial security of the family or person! I don’t really have the answers. But it is painful to see that young women of today also happily accept the archaic belief system which advocates that the almighty husband’s only job is to earn. It is upsetting to see that young women of today as well feel that washing dishes and cooking for their husbands is their sole objective in life. It irks me when I see a female sermonizing on the validity of the antediluvian notion of the male gender’s supremacy.
How can we as women fight back to change perceptions when our own female companions feel it’s reprehensible to do so? We can fight the society and force it to change. But for that those within our own ranks, from the huge army of women in this land, need to abandon these perceptions too.
We cannot have women living in the corrupt fallacy that has been handed down since generations. If that happens we would be pulled back again and again to the same shackles of prejudice that we have been fighting against forever. We need to know that we are not born only to cook and feed the men in our lives. We are so much more. We need to realize our worth; the Indian society would never give us our due. We need to fight with the young and old alike and take what is ours. The respect we deserve won’t be handed to us on a golden platter. Believe me! Well atleast our history definitely suggests so and I’m not talking about our exaggerated mythological history of Goddesses.
So my dear woman folk will you stand up and fight for yourself in even the trivial things in life? And men, will you help your mothers, sisters, wives and daughters fight the demons of our jaundiced society? Will you?
Oh Woman, strive for what is yours,
You are special and so much more!
Oh Woman, break the shackles that oppress,
Don’t toil for your man’s each and every chore!
Oh Woman, dawn the cloak of progress,
Don’t have all your wishes repressed!
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